Wow, this story is really sad; it made cry. I mean, I feel the pain of the little girl not wanting to do what her mother told her because it’s so very dictator-like. The problem is that the poor lady suffered so much by her daughter not following her rules but to her it wasn’t an issue. She just thought that, as her daughter, the little girl was supposed to do what she said and from the looks of the story and what the narrator says, it is something quite common in China for the parents to dictate everything about their children's lives. But it’s an issue for me because children, or anyone for that matter, who isn’t raised in China or any country that is the same way, won’t see things the same way. They will only think that their parents are trying to change them and don’t love them the way they are. Basically, it’s a cultural problem more than anything else because if somebody is raised in a society that values a parent being strict to their children, then the kid will learn that it is okay for his or her parents to be that way and their lives will be happy and normal. But when the parent raises his or her children in a different culture, he or she doesn’t know that things are not the same way that where they grew up and the kids will never understand because they will have different values, opinions, and views and that’s when problems will arise because the parents will think their children are being cruel and “disobedient” when all that they’re doing is being themselves because that’s the society they live in. In the end, this was a terribly sad story that I would totally recommend for anyone to read, especially an immigrant or somebody really close to an immigrant because it has so much to offer and ANYONE will learn something from it, regardless of anything: if the reader has at least one parent, he or she WILL learn something from this story so I totally recommend it.
Wow, this story is really sad; it made cry. I mean, I feel the pain of the little girl not wanting to do what her mother told her because it’s so very dictator-like. The problem is that the poor lady suffered so much by her daughter not following her rules but to her it wasn’t an issue. She just thought that, as her daughter, the little girl was supposed to do what she said and from the looks of the story and what the narrator says, it is something quite common in China for the parents to dictate everything about their children's lives. But it’s an issue for me because children, or anyone for that matter, who isn’t raised in China or any country that is the same way, won’t see things the same way. They will only think that their parents are trying to change them and don’t love them the way they are.
ReplyDeleteBasically, it’s a cultural problem more than anything else because if somebody is raised in a society that values a parent being strict to their children, then the kid will learn that it is okay for his or her parents to be that way and their lives will be happy and normal. But when the parent raises his or her children in a different culture, he or she doesn’t know that things are not the same way that where they grew up and the kids will never understand because they will have different values, opinions, and views and that’s when problems will arise because the parents will think their children are being cruel and “disobedient” when all that they’re doing is being themselves because that’s the society they live in.
In the end, this was a terribly sad story that I would totally recommend for anyone to read, especially an immigrant or somebody really close to an immigrant because it has so much to offer and ANYONE will learn something from it, regardless of anything: if the reader has at least one parent, he or she WILL learn something from this story so I totally recommend it.